Creating Shade in Moments of Overwhelm When emotional pain feels unbearable, safety and connection come first. Learn how to offer support and when to reach out for help. WOC Therapy, Los Angeles. Recently, I was outdoors with my family in the blistering summer heat. I was sweating profusely, carrying a diaper bag, a picnic blanket, and my little one’s hand. My brows were furrowed and my body ached as we walked, searching for some shade. My focus was on a tree. I had to get there. As I schlepped toward it, I heard a cry. My little one had tripped and needed help. For about 15 seconds, I felt angry that we had stopped. At the same time, I felt guilty that he was hurt and blamed myself for his […]
Read PostSeptember is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, and this one feels deeply personal to me. I was born and raised in Los Angeles, and my path into mental health work began not only with what I witnessed in my community, but with my own struggles and losses. Two of my closest friends in college died by suicide. They were bright souls with so much potential, and they were also carrying depression that many of us could not see. Losing them left me with questions that have stayed with me ever since: Why aren’t we talking? How do we break the stigma around therapy—especially as Black women? Who is there to support us when strength becomes too heavy to perform? Those questions became part of the foundation of Women of Color Therapy. […]
Read PostAs summer winds down, many families are preparing for one of life’s biggest transitions: sending a child off to college. Dorm rooms are being packed, family dinners feel a little more bittersweet, and parents may quietly wonder, How many more of these moments do we have before the house feels different? Alongside the excitement and pride can come something unexpected: grief. And if you’re feeling it, you’re not alone. When the House Feels Different For nearly two decades, your life may have revolved around your child—their first steps, first day of school, late-night conversations, activities, celebrations, and all the little moments in between. Then suddenly, they’re making decisions about college, roommates, careers, and their future. You’re not just saying goodbye to your child living at home. You’re saying goodbye to […]
Read PostKeywords: healthy boundaries, protecting your peace, self-care, emotional well-being, boundary setting, mental health, motherhood, work-life balance, emotional burnout Dinner meals, snacks, gas, online bills, a phone call to my daughter’s teacher… As I twirled my fingers through my curly hair, I mentally ran through everything I needed to accomplish before my two-year-old daughter woke up with her endless energy. And, of course, I couldn’t forget the most important item on the list: get coffee. Lately, I’ve been going to bed every night with one goal—to wake up before my children. I wanted a quiet moment to write my to-do list, get dressed, eat breakfast, meditate, and prepare myself before the beautiful chaos of motherhood began. That morning, I finally did it. I woke up early, wrote my list, and started […]
Read PostThere’s something sacred that happens when women gather. When we create a space that allows us to let go of performance and perfection and just be. Maya Angelou once said, “We live longer and better lives when we have sisters we love, not necessarily born in our bloodline or of our race.” The alchemy of sisterhood is real and this month, at The WOC House, we didn’t just celebrate history; we lived inside of it. We created space for reflection, for truth-telling, for rest, for joy… and for the kind of conversations that don’t always have smooth edges, but still deserve to be held. That’s exactly what this space was built for. Fresh Look: A Conversation About Hope and Perseverance Our first gathering, Fresh Look, in collaboration with Tal Navarro […]
Read PostMaking sense of political stress without losing yourself As a therapist, politics are already in the room before anyone names them. It has been a heavy and unsettling time politically in the U.S., to say the least. People are living inside nonstop polarization, constant breaking news, public grief, protest, fear, and a deep sense of uncertainty about what comes next. Even on days when nothing “new” happens, there’s still a background hum of stress that never fully turns off. It feels like the ground keeps shifting and like staying oriented now takes more effort than it used to. I hear it in the way clients talk about the future with despair and existential dread. I notice it in how often people describe feeling chronically on edge, emotionally tired, or overwhelmed. […]
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