Intentions Over Resolutions in the New Year

As the calendar flips to a new year, the air buzzes with the fervor of resolutions. However, amidst the excitement of setting ambitious goals, there’s a hidden truth we often overlook—the transient nature of resolutions and their potential harm to our mental well-being. This year let’s consider an alternative approach—shifting from resolutions to setting intentions for the new year.

Resolutions vs. Intentions

Resolutions, despite their good intentions, often come with a weighty burden. They are often rigid, demanding immediate change, and setting unrealistic standards. The pressure to adhere strictly to these resolutions can lead to feelings of inadequacy and failure when, inevitably, we fall short. Think back to past resolutions—did you aim to lose an arbitrary amount of weight, or commit to an extreme fitness routine? Perhaps you vowed to overhaul your entire diet overnight or promised to eliminate a habit ingrained for years. The allure of a clean slate in the new year tempts us to make grand declarations, but statistics reveal a harsh truth—most resolutions fade by mid-February.

The average person can maintain their resolution for about three and a half months, highlighting the transient nature of these grand promises. When we fall short of these lofty goals, it often leads to a cycle of shame and guilt, eroding our self-esteem instead of fostering positive change. Intentions, on the other hand, offer a more compassionate and flexible approach to personal growth. Unlike resolutions, intentions focus on the journey rather than an end goal. They invite us to set a guiding principle or mindset that we wish to cultivate throughout the year. This shift in perspective allows room for growth, adaptation, and self-compassion. For help in reframing resolutions to intentions, book a free consultation here: Reach Out for Support | Contact Us | WOC Therapy.

Breaking it Down

Setting intentions involves understanding your core values and aspirations, creating a roadmap for your actions, decisions, and behaviors. Rather than fixating on a specific outcome, intentions encourage us to embody a certain way of being, guiding our actions in alignment with our deeper desires.

Let’s delve deeper into the reasons why intentions can serve as a more sustainable framework for personal development:

Flexibility and Adaptability: Intentions are flexible and adaptable. They allow us to pivot, adjust, and recalibrate our path without feeling like we’ve failed. Life is dynamic, and intentions acknowledge this, fostering resilience in the face of unexpected challenges.

Focus on Process, Not Outcome: Resolutions often fixate on a specific outcome, while intentions prioritize the process. By focusing on how we want to live, act, and grow, intentions encourage mindful actions every day, fostering a sense of fulfillment along the journey.

Kindness and Self-Compassion: Intentions promote self-compassion. They provide the space to acknowledge setbacks without self-judgment, fostering a healthier relationship with ourselves and our goals.

Alignment with Values: Intentions align with our values and aspirations, guiding us towards a life that feels genuinely fulfilling and meaningful. They serve as a compass, directing our choices in harmony with our true selves.

Next Steps

So, how can we practically set intentions for the new year?

Reflect: Take time to reflect on your values, desires, and areas of growth. What do you wish to invite into your life this year? What qualities or mindsets do you want to cultivate?

Choose Your Intentions: Select a few intentions that resonate deeply with you. These could be phrases like “practice gratitude daily,” “cultivate resilience in challenges,” or “prioritize self-care.”

Integrate into Daily Life: Incorporate your intentions into your daily routine. Create reminders, journal about them, or find activities that align with your intentions.

Embrace Flexibility: Remember, intentions are not rigid rules. Embrace the ebb and flow of life, allowing space for adjustments while staying aligned with your guiding principles.

As we step into the new year, let’s adopt a gentler, more sustainable approach towards personal growth. Let our intentions guide us, nurturing a mindset of continuous improvement and self-discovery. In doing so, we can create a year filled with purpose, growth, and genuine fulfillment, free from the weight of unattainable resolutions.